How to Get Along with Me
» Give me plenty of compliments. They mean a lot to me.
(Sweet, but completely unnecessary.)
» Be a supportive friend or partner.
Help me to learn to love and value myself.
» Respect me for my special gifts of intuition and vision.
» Though I don't always want to be cheered up when I'm feeling melancholy, I sometimes like to have someone lighten me up a little.
» Don't tell me I'm too sensitive or that I'm overreacting!
What I Like About Being a FOUR
» my ability to find meaning in life and to experience feeling at a deep level
» my ability to establish warm connections with people
» admiring what is noble, truthful, and beautiful in life
» my creativity, intuition, and sense of humor
» being unique and being seen as unique by others
» having aesthetic sensibilities
» being able to easily pick up the feelings of people around me
What's Hard About Being a FOUR
» experiencing dark moods of emptiness and despair
»
feelings of self-hatred and shame; believing I don't deserve to be loved (i'm not that emo.)
» feeling guilty when I disappoint people
» feeling
hurt or attacked annoyed when someone misundertands me
» expecting too much from myself and life
» fearing being abandoned
» obsessing over resentments
»
longing for what I don't have
FOURs as Children Often
» have active imaginations: play creatively
alone or organize playmates in original games
» are very sensitive
» feel that they don't fit in
(sometimes.)
» believe they are missing something that other people have
(again, sometimes.)
» attach themselves to
idealized teachers, heroes, artists,
etc.
» become antiauthoritarian or rebellious when criticized or not understood
»
feel lonely or abandoned (perhaps as a result of a death or their parents' divorce)
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source:
the quick and painless enneagram test
